The Queer Earthling

I’m Ollie Fox. I’m a 34-year-old who likes Star Trek and getting spanked.

[Description: White nonbinary person dressed kinda like a Newsie.]

In 2010 I got a BA in English from a private and extremely conservative Christian university, and in 2019 I used my writing skills to start writing about queer, kinky sex. In addition to the Queer Earthling sex blog, my work has been featured on SheVibe and Offbeat Home (the latter as Tessa Fox), as well as being included in the anthology Cunning Linguists.

Queer Earthling features sex toy reviews, personal anecdotes, and thoughts on sex- and kink-related concepts. I’m passionate about sex toy safety, affordable sex toys, and of the idea that sexuality doesn’t have to follow a script. My spouse and I, both a-spec and nonbinary, have an extremely satisfying, albeit nontraditional, sex life, and I wanted to express to the world that your sexuality doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s to be good and fulfilling. I also write a lot about my life in a 24/7 nonsexual kink dynamic, and sometimes about being queer in the South. I occasionally write erotica.

You can also find me on Twitter or Facebook. If you’d like to contact me about reviews, sponsored posts, or just for fun, please use my contact page.

Main Characters

Ollie Fox

A 33-year-old demisexual pan enby who is probably from Earth. Submissive. Nerdy. Identifies as a little, pet player, and service sub, despite generally forgetting to do any chores. When not sex blogging, hobbies include collecting dolls and making pixel art. My favorite toys include The Realm Silver Bullet, Satisfyer Yummy Sunshine, and just about any Uberrime dildo. (They/them, or fae/fem.)

Medieval illumination by Septimus Reviews of me (with purple hair, wearing a pink tunic) holding the Satisfyer Yummy Sunshine.

Damien Fox

A 42-year-old nonbinary person. Suspected but unconfirmed hot alien. Dominant. Nerdy. Married to Ollie Fox and Metamour. Furry artist who works on commission. Asexual/graysexual. Occasional contributor, constant beta-reader. Has a great Redbubble shop. (They/them.)

Other Key Players


A 46-year-old bisexual cis man. Planet of origin unknown. Married to Damien. Possibly nerdier than the others. Not involved in Ollie’s sex life but a very significant part of the household. Used to do a series about retro FLASH animations on his Tumblr. (He/him)


Ollie Fox’s sister. Married, has 937 kids. Surprisingly supportive. Claims not to be nerdy but plays tabletop RPGs and watches Doctor Who. The only straight person I know. (She/her)


[Image: Two black cats in a cat tree. Jinx on the left, Lucky on the right.]

Jinx and Lucky, two almost identical black cats, adopted February 2022. Lucky is the smaller one, Jinx is the bigger one. Lucky is a mighty hunter with a strident voice and a lot of opinions, and Jinx is an overgrown baby who is scared of most things. They enjoy watching the bird feeder and destroying cat toys.

Hennessey and Percy, pictured in a few posts prior to January 2022. Hennessey (d. January 2022) was a big gray cat with very loud opinions; Percy (d. August 2021) was an orange and white goofball. Both are missed.

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