cw: discussions of slutshaming and use of the word “slut” in both negative and positive contexts; mentions of kink and D/s dynamics
The word “slut” and I have a bit of a tempestuous history.
Growing up, this was one of the Top Tier Curse Words. Use of the word “slut” would have gotten me in big trouble. At the same time, I was strongly encouraged to avoid any activity or appearance that might be deemed slutty, albeit not in so many words. Promiscuity (or, indeed, sex before marriage) was to be avoided at all costs, as was dressing in a sexually provocative way. Occasionally even as a young adult I was at times quizzed on whether or not I was doing sex-adjacent things like masturbating, or “fooling around” with my roommates at my extremely conservative Christian college. (This is possibly another sign that everyone except me noticed that I was pretty gay, but that’s beside the point.) The word “slut” was forbidden, but that didn’t stop any unnamed slut-shaming.
As I got older and worked to lose my sexual shame, I discovered people who used “slut” for themselves, positively. While I recognized the value of reclamation, it made me extremely uncomfortable for reasons I wasn’t ready to unpack. But it was all well and good if someone called themselves a slut, even if it made me uncomfortable. Meanwhile, though, I was beginning to discover an interest in BDSM, and often delved into kinky, smutty stories or gifsets on the Internet. I liked a lot of them, but one thing that would always throw me off was when a dom-type called their sub-type a slut. Major degradation is still one of my limits, and it always seemed to be trying to build some shame into the subby character for being horny. I’d often leave an otherwise perfectly nice story when the word “slut” came out, deciding it was rooted in the same chauvinism and sex negativity that I grew up with and wanted to avoid. Sometimes it was.
And then, at some point, I saw something where Sub Character called themselves “a slut,” and the Dom Character, very affectionately, said, “No, you’re my slut.” A light went on in my head with a cartoonish ding! Certainly, some of those fantasies used the word intending degradation and shame, or accusation. But what if some of them…didn’t? Most of my erotic consumption was in writing, and I provided my own voices, after all. Perhaps sometimes—perhaps many times—I was reading shame into something that was spoken admiringly, affectionately. Perhaps the character appreciated the other’s horniness and used The Forbidden S Word to convey how admirable that trait was to them.
And then, magically, a new kink was unlocked.
The Temptasia Slut Plug by Blush Novelties is your standard bud-shaped plug, round with a pointy tip. If you think of a butt plug, this is probably the shape that comes to mind. It’s black, because of course it is, and the silicone is a matte, velvety finish, and doesn’t pick up a lot of lint unless I’m trying to photograph it. It’s pretty small—the widest part of the plug is 1.4 inches, which is pretty close to my first plug.
The real selling point of this plug is the base, which is also silicone but quite stiff, and slightly wider than the widest point of the insertable portion. It’s round like a princess plug, but rather than a jewel, it simply reads “SLUT” across the base in white letters. (They have another version that says SLAVE in red, if that’s more your thing.)
Having suffered with a few large bases before, and also having a definite preference for toys with narrow bases that fit between my butt cheeks, I was expecting to hate how this felt, especially if I was wearing it for any length of time. I figured it would be a little stiff, a little stabby, and generally a frustrating time.
It…was fine? I think it’s that subtle give to the silicone that keeps it from being too hard. It doesn’t quite conform to my body (which is good! It’s not going to buckle and wander up my asshole! Always a fan of that) but it’s flexible, and that makes all the difference.
The insertable part is fine. It’s definitely a beginner-friendly plug, being fairly small and without any texture or unusual shapes. That is not to say that it’s bad by any means! I really enjoyed it while using a dildo vaginally (my second favorite activity with a plug) and while walking around the house following orders from my dom (my actual favorite activity with a plug). There’s a reason this shape and size is fairly classic. It might be nice to have a few more size choices, both bigger and smaller, but it’s a fairly new release, so I’m not mad at it.
The curvy neck and the size of the bulb also mean that the toy stays in place, unlike some plugs that will kind of migrate out. For me it stays put whether I’m walking or orgasming, which is nice. It can get a little uncomfortable if I’m sitting on it for too long, but I’m also not accustomed to doing so. Practice might make that easier.
Like most silicone toys, it can sometimes hang onto smells, but that’s immediately remedied by a 10% bleach bath or a wipe-down with a Lysol wipe.
The reason to buy this plug over another basic plug is, of course, for the SLUT label, whether for someone trying to reclaim it, someone who gets off on being called a slut (with whatever connotation they prefer), or just for a cute little detail. This is the central point of this plug, so I kind of wish the writing were…prettier? More interesting? It’s just an all-caps sans serif font. Like a label maker for your asshole. Or a 2007 cat meme. I’m hoping the next release in the Temptasia line is an I CAN HAZ BOOTY plug. It’s not hideous—they didn’t use Comic Sans, which would have been both terrible and amazing—but there’s something weirdly impersonal about it.
But honestly, if the only complaint I have is that the font isn’t pretty enough, we’re clearly doing pretty well!
Honestly? I think this toy is pretty cool. The only other plugs I’ve seen with words like “slut” written on them are usually custom stickers placed on cheap, bulk-purchased metal princess plugs on Etsy. I personally much prefer something silicone (comfier!) and from a store that I trust (safer!). I hope that Blush releases a few other word options. (“Princess,” “Submissive,” “Owned,” “BUTT.” Feel free to use any of these free of charge, Blush. You’re welcome.) There’s something extremely fun about visually labeling yourself, whether for a partner’s enjoyment or your own. Not to mention the lovely idea of someone consensually picking one out to assign you a label for the scene/session/day. The whole concept behind the plug is great fantasy fodder, and I’m a fan. The fact that it’s on the small side makes it accessible for a broader range of people, which is also wonderful.
Oh, you know what else makes this toy more accessible? It’s $15.99. That’s super inexpensive for a toy that’s well-made, comfortable, functional, and capable of sparking some imaginative uses. At that price, and this quality, this would be an awesome first plug, or a little treat for yourself or a consenting loved one.
It’s not going to replace my favorite “working” plug, which remains the Tantus Perfect Plug, but it’s getting more use these days than the cheap silicone princess plug I got from a now-defunct website a few years back. Like the plug but don’t like the “slut” label? Temptasia also has a few other plugs, like this one! The shape is a little different but it’s cute.
The Bottom Line
My ass is happy to throw off any previous baggage and to proudly wear a “slut” sign. Yours might be, too! It’s comfortable and small enough for my preferences while still being big enough to be noticeable; it’s solid and not gonna come apart; and it’s pretty cute. And it’s affordable! It’s not the only butt plug I’ll be using from here on out, but I’m pretty sure it’s going into regular rotation. Also, if they make one with a prettier font, I’ll definitely buy a new one. Just sayin’.
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